Unmasking Love

I read something somewhere, relating to Love At First Sight (we’ll call it LAFS for short). The stats reveal that men are more likely to report having falling in love at first sight, however, stats be what they may, are not what I have been thinking about. The question I have been pondering, is one of cause and effect, of the eternal loop hole that can say so much; that ultimately slips by in the confusion of the moment. Loop hole? So, maybe that’s the best way to describe it; that “thingy” that happens, when everyone is watching, and you go in the other direction!

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So, how does LAFS come into the conversation, the thought process, or conjure itself up into a question in the age of pandemic?

Well, it’s a very simple word “mask”! Ok, maybe two simple words, the other word is “philtrum”!  Wait, before you switch off, it’s actually quite interesting, and not that scientific of a boring word; because we all have one, just like a belly-button!

The Greeks call it “philtron”, or a quick translation “love charm” (which could be said in your best Barry White voice), or “love potion”.

If you’re starting to squirm, and yell “where is it, get it off”, you should be ashamed, or even sorry! The fact is, it is right in your face, and yes it appears “it” has a lot to do with LAFS; sorry, not sorry!

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The “philtrum” is that indent between your nose, and your upper lip!  And, you probably will look at everyone differently from now on, because now you know; or have been reminded.  The power of the “love charm”, or philtrum, is that when we gaze at someone, we decide if we are attracted to that person based on the definition of that area.  Once, I was made aware of this, it definitely made me take a closer look, or at least became “woke”,  in the basics of rudimentary attraction.

I dare say, that the philtrum, may not be alone in the awaking of very human emotions, surely personality will also play a significant role, along with other attributes.  However, it does appear to be one of the very things, that makes the heart go Boom!

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If everything above is true, then what happens in the age of pandemic? Is wearing a mask a deterrent to primal instincts when it comes to love, and can we therefore expect less LAFS during this time? Are we therefore forced to make more eye contact, and rely on that as a new form of gaining love, and intimacy?

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Above is Queen Leticia, of Spain, who was a meteorologist on afternoon television, as the story has it, the then Prince Felipe (also shown above in the picture) fell in love with her while watching her on the tele; and, the rest is history!

Ironically, it seems that most people believe that gazing into someone’s eyes, is what captivated them to begin with.

What do you think?

 

 

Images:

Fear of People Staring At You: From Bing/Very Well Mind

Facial drawing: Wikipedia

Queen Leticia: Bing Images

Queen Leticia & King Felipe VI – EPA/Bing Images

We do not own images used, and are available on Bing images, and Wikipedia as referenced here.

Related Reading:

Psychology Today: LAFS Real?

Feelings of LAFS Described Here

Upper Female Lip & Sex

Importance of  Philtrum During Gestation

How Bloggers Can Grow Each Others Readership

Growing Fellow Bloggers

Steve Farnsworth's Old Blog

Blog Blogging Tips Content Marketing Grow Readership B2B

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If you are a blogger for a mid-sized company, or trying to build a B2B’s reputation, growing your readership is an ongoing objective. This is the same challenge that all business bloggers and individual bloggers struggle with alike.

I have always thought Twitter was a marvelous way to help grow your blog readership by helping others grow theirs. Bloggers supporting bloggers. That sounded like s stupid simple thing that any blogger would get behind. However, for whatever reason this wishful reciprocity only happens sporadically at best…until now.

Click to Tweet ★   How Bloggers Can Grow Each Others Readership  ★

A lot of requests from fellow bloggers to share their latest post flow into my DM and email boxes. I don’t mind when I know the requester well, or have had some meaningful exchange on social media, or have met in real life. Heck, I enjoy helping friends…

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DIY Hanky Embroidery

42. Crying

I was taught NOT to cry, totally unacceptable, no exceptions! Except…

 

 

THOUSAND THOUGHTS

When I was little, my mom cried a lot. I would find her in the basement behind the water heater and the flower press, crying. It was terrifying to see her crying, but there was an intimacy in sitting with her as she did. Those were emotional days. There was a lot going on. My mom was pregnant, working full time, and taking care of my brother and I. There was a lot of family drama, too.

Anyways, when I was a teenager I was introduced to the idea that crying was a form of manipulation. Crying is what women did when they wanted to evade responsibility for something they had done. Crying was weakness, it was fear. These messages came from all over. Some of them were direct, as in actual words coming out of actual mouths of actual, albeit confused, people. They came from all walks of life…

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Amazing Homemade Pickles in 3 Days!

I Luv Pickles, go for it!

Joy and Ginger


Yes, you read right.  3 days!  I LOVE pickles.  My last pregnancy I ate an entire jar of pickles and a pint of ice cream for dinner on more than one occasion.  When they are small and crisp and a bit of spice to them- WOW!  But, I never thought of making them myself.  It seemed too fussy, and I wasn’t experienced in canning.  Then I saw this recipe on www.frugallysustainable.com and thought I would give it a try.  I am so glad I did.  What a hit!

I don’t have much of a garden, we’ve had such a mild summer here.  So I bought some pickling cucumbers at the farmers market last weekend.  The smallest ones I could find, and just enough for one quart size jar.  It was hard to wait three days to try them, but it was worth it, and now that I’ve almost finished this…

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Free birth control under health law starts today

Free birth control under health law starts today.

Starting Wednesday, millions of American women will no longer pay for birth control pills, Pap smears or mammograms — not even a co-pay.

The beautiful New Apple TV

New Apple TV

Please do not bully your old flat panel, after all you can re-assign it to another room; or donate it to a charitable cause!

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 Here It Is, The New Apple TV

“Pregnant From Manhattan”

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As a new Mom, or Dad, you’ve got lots to do; so I thought I’d help out. Remember your #BFF will also be the sage advise of well respected Pediatricians in the form of books (ebooks). The Baby Guru for my kids’ generation (and for a few generations) is Dr. T. Berry Brazelton!  I read lots, and anything I could get my hands on.  To help me as a newbie Mom, I knew I needed to be informed, for my new biggest challenge: Motherhood!

I was lucky to have one of my childhhod girlfriends. She was 5 years older than me, and experienced everything first;  filling  me in, as time went on!  My #BFF showed me a cover of a magazine, which featured “Veruschka” (the world famous model) pregnant, and barely dressed on its cover!  Wow, all belly, dark eye shadow, gorgeous, and good bone structure too.  Veruschka, was the first woman, to show her blossoming belly publicly, my BFF noted.

Many years later,  my friend had her first, and only baby (girl) who was born at St. Vincent’s Hospital in NYC, I became the proud God Mother.  However, in between my God Daughter and my own children, were the lessons of  “reading all these books.” She joyfully introduced me to Dr. Brazelton, via the written word, and recommended that I read his books, to get ready for my own brood someday!

My #BFF was like my older sister, so of course I wanted emulate her; plus she was drop dead gorgeous ( a natural beauty), and she was right about “Veruschka”!  Not only that, but she had worked in the publishing industry, and had heard Jacqueline Kennedy‘s voice in the elevator!

“What does it sound like, what does her voice sound like??” I demanded, whining, and almost in tears from the mere torture of my not having been there, and shame of not having ever wondered what Jacky’s voice would sound like?  I should have thought of this before, “what does Jacky’s voice sound like” I begged.  My friend calmly said, “she speaks very low, and quiet”! ” Sort of like this,” she dropped her tone, a few octaves to get a low “C”, and said “good morning,” and “excuse me.”  Oh pure joy, heaven, earth, rapture!  “Now I know,” I would speak this way too, of course!

Happy Mothers Day

My children were born to a well read Mom with a low, quiet voice (at times).  I continued to read more, and I really luved that “Parents” magazine!  You may remember, that knowledge is power.  The more you know the less nervous you are, the happier Baby is!  As you continue your quest in Motherhood, and parenting, I hope you know that many came before you, and “reading all these books” has it’s rewards, and merits.

My BFF and I, often remember when she was pregnant in Manhattan.  When she delivered, I brought Swiss chocolates to the Hospital, not knowing the new Mom wouldn’t eat them, she was breast feeding! Obviously, I was still in training.

Animals and Characters

My God Daughter?  She’s in College!   Jacqueline is beautiful young woman who plays the guitar, luvs a good read, enjoys the outdoors, and listens quietly.

My brood consists of two Sons, who are also in College, but don’t call home enough!

A Few More Lessons From My #BFF:

  • When “Baby Proofing” your home get on all fours, and crawl around! You’ll be at baby level, and see everything that the baby sees, grab, or touch.
  • Always test baby’s bath water with your elbow, if it’s slightly too warm, make it cooler.
  • If you micro wave anything, remember that heat is hottest at the bottom, shake or stir and test on the wrist area of your arm.

A Few More Lessons From Me:

  • Always empty the contents of baby food onto a dish, don’t ever take for granted that there isn’t a foreign object in the jar!!! (I once found a wood splinter in the baby food jar).
  • When you use baby wipes, test them on your self Mom, you may find that what corporate America thinks is “gentle”, is not so gentle to you. Can you imagine if the wipe stung me, how would my infant baby would feel (boy or girl)?

Wishing All The Moms a very Happy Mothers Day, and if things aren’t perfect, please keep the Faith!

#MYOB

What a delicious concept to Mother Your Own Business!  Well it should be Mothered, after all don’t our clients need it sometimes?  On this Mothers Day, I thought it particularly important to focus on getting a bit personal in business.

Getting personal may take a nicely baked cake, a half-baked idea, or a good swift kick in the pants!

Mothers Day 2012, let’s also give our Moms some kudos, after all she helped create the entrepreuneral genius that your are, and have M.D. stand for Mothers Day!

Just a thought! So, Mother your clients, and reward your Mom! Genius. Of course!

Notes: A Purse shaped cake is a good reminder that the relationship still involves $$$,
prompt payments are still expected, as per contractual obligations (Mom is very
proud of this last line)!